Avoidance Phase
In this phase there is recognition of the loss by acknowledging and understanding the death (why the person died).
Confrontation Phase
In this phase there is reaction to the separation that has been caused by the loss. This will involve experiencing the pain related to the loss, as well as, feeling, identifying, accepting, and expressing the reactions to the loss. Another process is identifying and mourning secondary losses, such as loss of future experiences and events.
The next process would be to recollect and re-experience the deceased and the relationship. This will involve reviewing and remembering the person realistically and building an accurate memory of them. You will also revive and accurately re-experience feelings about that person.
The last process of confrontation will be to relinquish old attachments to the deceased and the old assumptive world.
Accommodation Phase
In this phase there will be readjustment and movement adaptively into the new world without forgetting the old. The old world will be revised and the person will be more willing to take risks again in their life. A new relationship with the deceased will be established. The person will form a new identity and adopt new ways of being in the world.
The next process will be reinvesting in the world and the ability to trust the world again in order to begin rebuilding.
These processes and phases may be visited and revisited as the person matures and has new life experiences
